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It’s Friday night, and I keep replaying this week’s events in my head. Friends, this has been an extremely trying week for me. You know, one of those weeks where everything seems go to wrong and it feels like no one is listening to you or appreciating the things you do. As a working mom, these days occur with some degree or regularity, but I work hard at stopping them from eating away at my spirit, morsel by morsel. On days like today, I’d love to drown my sorrows and stress in a pitcher of margaritas, but I’m all out of tequila and I’d be blowing my diet.
After a lot of thought, I realized that there are all kinds of things to do to shake off a craptastic week like this one and kick its ass to the curb. Here are my 10 favorite ways.
- Call Your Best Friend — Bonus points if he or she’s funny and likes to swear a lot. Double bonus if he or she shows up on your doorstep with food or adult beverages.
- Snuggle With Your Pet — Puppy snuggles can cure so many problems. Dogs or cats are best, guinea pigs are a distant third, and kids or husbands can fill in if all else fails.
- Call It A Night — Gift yourself with the serenity of sleep to forget about that shitshow of a week. (Yeah, it really rhymes. I’m smooth like that.) Also, it eliminates possibilities for more to go wrong that day. Trust me, limit the damage.
- Indulge in Cocktails — Or craft beer, if that’s you’re jam. Hit up a bar, friend’s house, your own ‘fridge or a hockey game… Those flowing drinks along with good friends will help you feel less likely to make voodoo dolls of your boss and bat-shit crazy co-worker.
- Listen to Your Favorite Stress-Relief Music — I suggest creating an iTunes playlist with a fun name, like “Friday Nights are for Office Arson”. Just kidding. Maybe “No More Drama” or “All Out of Fucks to Give”. Pink should be represented, and possibly some good ol’ 90’s rap.
- Meditate Yourself Sane — If calmness and peace are on the menu, guided meditation is a perfect way to envision a more positive, less brutal week ahead. It’s essentially managed daydreaming.
- Laugh It Off — A visit to a local comedy club or watching comedy specials from your couch can make your sad soul pull a 180. Amy Schumer and Chris Rock are like chicken soup for my soul.
- Mask It Up — Slap on a sheet mask that makes you look like Buffalo Bill from Silence of the Lambs and take a rest on the couch or your bed for a 15-minute forced-silence treat. You may feel lousy, but it’s hard to stay grouchy with glowing, soft skin.
- Treat Yo’ Self — I’m talking about online shopping, not shoving an entire cupcake into your mouth followed by a Fireball chaser (though that may not be half-bad). Buy yourself something fun and maybe pick up a necessity or two. Don’t forget to use a coupon code.
- Get Social — Whether you’re into watching videos of pandas rolling down hills, browsing Instagram makeup tutorials or Facebook stalking your ex from college, social media is time-suckage at its best. It’s also relaxing and doesn’t cost anything, so get your mindless entertainment where you can.
Some of these things might cost you money. Some may just be a waste of time. Others may be just what the Working Mom Doc ordered. After a long week, the answer is to recovery and renewal is peace, a change of pace and a little self-care. To everyone who had an unforgivably bad week, I salute you and raise this mug of spiked coffee to you.
How do you recharge after an especially rough week?
Amazing what a minute can do.
This is one of my favorite song lyrics, perhaps ever. It’s from Dave Matthews Band’s song “So Damn Lucky” and I’ve heard it played many times over the years live and on those old-fashioned shiny round discs that we used to put into our cars’ dashboards. I mostly love this because a minute can change so many things in our lives, even if we don’t realize it at the moment.
The other day, my daughter was sick and I was ferrying her between the doctor and the pharmacy when I stopped and took a moment to look around me. It was 85 degrees, the sun was shining and a cool breeze lazily wafted through the air. I thought, Wow, so this is what the world is like on a day like this. Beautiful.
I took it in, while stopped at a traffic light next to a huge flatbed truck hauling sod. On a wild hair, I rolled the windows down in the car, and my 3-year-old squealed with delight of feeling the air rush in and blow her hair around.
In that moment, I had an epiphany, the kind where you lightly gasp to yourself as it’s happening. I realized that I’d been living like a hermit crab for the past few years, going outside to enjoy this beautiful place I call home only for long enough to run an errand, attend an outdoor event or generally do something else where I was checking a box in life. I hadn’t been living. At least not in the way that I’d wanted.
I realized that squeal from my daughter came out as a response to this being the first time ever that I’d put down her window in the backseat. Before that day, I remember thinking, I’ll never unroll these windows while driving, my hair will be ruined and things will fly everywhere! And it’s WAY too hot here! I know, I know, way to be spontaneous. Clearly, I’m All-Business Mommy at times!
As I was rolling down the street in my mom-mobile, windows down with my shades on and music up, I realized that I was smiling and my daughter was smiling… we were having spontaneous FUN. It’s not that it never happens, but it was all a function of capturing a moment when we had nothing else to do, nowhere else to be but together in this gorgeous weather. Even her being sick that day didn’t deter her from laughing at the new experience of feeling the air and warm sun on her cheeks. After that, I knew some things needed to change in the way that I worked, managed my family and viewed the world around me.
If you’ve ever seen the movie, Office Space (a late 90’s cult classic), you may recall the main character Peter commenting that humans weren’t meant to sit in cubicles all day long and dread life. He was on to something, though the way he went about solving his problem is not recommended. While I love my job, it keeps me stressed out and exhausted in ways that are not what I dream of for the rest of my career. Is it wrong to want more from life and feel that you deserve something better?
That night, I came home and told my two best friends about this moment–my husband and my twin sister. I told them that I wanted a life where living was the priority and where I found a way to make that happen while doing the mandatory stuff to keep the household engine running. Both were supportive, but thought I was a little crazy. I can’t say I blame them. A moment of sunshine and breezes made me reprioritize, and this blog was born.
I can’t wait to share so many of the things that I love with you. This is going to be a wonderful journey!
Thanks for joining me!
Good company in a journey makes the way seem shorter. — Izaak Walton
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